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Understanding Relationship Patterns & our History

When we are children we have some core emotional needs. This includes being SAFE, LOVED and having BOUNDARIES. When a child feels safe they see the world as a safe place. There is some predictability. Adults are able to regulate their emotions. There isn’t any...

The Science of Parenting

The Science of Parenting

'Having spent 30 yrs. as a counsellor working with parents of all backgrounds, what stands out for me is that parental frustrations is the result of parents held captive by the pre-programmed practices/neural pathways from their childhoods. Parents react to their...

Depression

Depression

Kelowna is a beautiful place to live but it is hard to appreciate the daily things in our lives when we are struggling with depression. Let's say that after years of working for a company you are laid off or get fired. You would feel sad, tired and emotionally...

Addiction

Addiction

  Though living in Kelowna has many opportunities to connect and enjoy outdoor activities it also has many people who are feeling distressed and disconnected. Being distressed and not coping with lifes challenges can lead to addiction. People are trying to soothe...

Anxiety

Busy in Kelowna? It is normal to feel anxious from time to time, especially if you live a stressful life. But what happens when it moves from regular anxiety to more intense troubling feelings. When anxiety is more chronic and persistent, we start to experience it as...

Let’s Talk About Relationships

Let’s Talk About Relationships

Life is a series of learning experiences and many of its lessons come in the form of human experiences. Most of us think that the relationships that are pleasurable are blessings in our lives. But every single person we come in contact with provides a unique...

The Cycle of Addiction

The Cycle of Addiction

Addiction and early childhood experiences are connected. Developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld says that 75% of our emotional mapping happens in early childhood. What if we didn't talk about feelings in our family, didn't get warm hugs and the words I love...

Strength

Perhaps Strength doesn't reside in having never been broken but in the courage required to grow strong in the broken places.